What You Can Control

We’ve all had those days when everything’s going just fine and then out of nowhere someone or something negative happens and it throws us into the worst funk.

You see something on social media. Overhead someone say something. Saw someone do something.


And then, BAM.


Bad mood.


All that energy, life, and joy sucked out of you.

Well the bad news is bad stuff that we don’t like will always find a way into our lives.

The good news is that YOU have the power to control your own joy.

Really think about that last line and really let it set in.


You control your own joy.

What people do to you, think about you, or how they treat you is completely out of your control.

Also, what people think of you is none of your business.

Most often the negatively that affects us is only negative because we initially, sometimes subconsciously, choose to allow it to be and feel negative.


Whatever we experience in life goes through a personal internal perception filter (how we see and view the world and what happens to us from the inside).

Our internal thoughts then create our feelings, our feelings radiate out and create our external reactions (our visible mood).


What we feel and think on the inside creates our reality on the outside.


We’ve all heard the saying “life is short.”

If life really is so short, how do you really want to spend the time you do have?

You can use your time and energy to worry about what you can’t control, or you can use what time and energy you do have to be joyful and grateful for the good around you.

It’s easier said than done, right?

Or is it?

Next time someone or something upsets you or creates negativity within your mind, pause.

Take a minute to ask yourself what that action is making you feel.

Then ask yourself why you feel that way.

Ask yourself the likelihood of this affecting you tomorrow, in a week, a month, a year…

If it’s really not a big deal, then choose to not sweat the small stuff.

Let it go.

Instead, consider empathy and forgiveness.

Consider not attributing malice to what could actually be attributed to ignorance or a lack of mindfulness.


Sometimes bad things happen or people treat others poorly not because of bad intentions but because of poorly planned actions.


Choose positivity, joy, and forgiveness.


Then watch yourself rise to a level and will power of abundance and happiness.


Are you ready to create your own joy?

Get after it awesome people!

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be One.” – Marcus Aurelius

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